20 Tips to build Self-confidence

20 Tips to build Self-confidence

Thereโ€™s no magic way of building self-confidence. 

Confidences come from being yourself and showing that you can succeed. It also comes from others recognizing that youโ€™re good at some particular skill and letting you know that they trust you to come through for them. 

How do I build self-confidence? How can I improve self esteem; 

Hereโ€™s a list I put down mostly gotten from my own experiences and interviewing others on building self-confidence:

1. ๐—”๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ, ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ:

Keep in mind that you can eventually improve in some areas not to get others to validate you but for your own happiness. Self-love and appreciation will boost your self-confidence knowing you can do anything you set your mind to do. 

2. ๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ Taking action solves most worries. The more you do things that are really important, the more you get familiar with them and build confidence afterwards. If you want to be a good writer, youโ€™ve got to practice daily. โ€œAmateurs call it genius. Masters call it practice.โ€ 

3. ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐˜€๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น: give yourself small goals to achieve and then credit yourself for achieving. โ€œYou must build the on the small to achieve the great.โ€* Make small wins every day; as small steps builds bigger leaps. 

Donโ€™t take this for granted, applaud the shit out of yourself for small victories. 

Example : Waking up early every day until it becomes a habit. - Doing your most important task first thing in the morning before scrolling social media. - Reading at least 30 minutes a day. 

๐Ÿฐ. ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€: Someone who knows where heโ€™s headed to would be more confident than one who hasnโ€™t taken the time to decide where he wants to be.

 Goal setting is free; yet few people take advantage of this. Keeping focused on the goal when you fall is paramount; itโ€™s what gives you the drive to get up when you fall; the idea is to identify and fix what keeps tripping youโ€ฆthen celebrating every little success. 

5. ๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป: fortune favours the bold. Dig before youโ€™re thirsty. Do things that are important but not urgent; rather than always living in a haste; slowly your confidence and others trust in you largely increases.

 ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ : Get organized by writing and planning your day, the night before, and/or week by the weekend. 

๐Ÿฒ. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ : Become competent in your daily works and you donโ€™t need to effort confidence; it will come naturally. Otherwise itโ€™s just inflation. 

๐Ÿณ. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด . Always say you WILL do something (instead of you can). It starts with never doubting yourself. Be consistent. Stay healthy. 

๐Ÿด. ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐˜‡๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ . It takes guts to getting comfortable with the uncomfortable. Do what scares you as often as you can. Most of the time, what youโ€™re putting off; is usually the most important. 

๐Ÿต. ๐—•๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ, ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—จ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€You canโ€™t escape this. Donโ€™t overthink, listen to your intuition and go for it. Try something Hard - decide to do sh*t, you never thought you could do. The better you know what youโ€™re good at and not good at; the more you confidence in yourself grows. But first you have to try. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฌ. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜: self-confidence builds by following through on mini targets.โ€œItโ€™s not what you know, itโ€™s what you do consistently.โ€ - Tony Robbins. 

 ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ: Focus on what you feel adds value and meaning to the world. Do something youโ€™re good at. Being the generic opportunistic and looking for trends guy is a crap way to build confidence. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฎ. ๐—ค๐˜‚๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป โ€“ When you hesitate, you create doubt, then the lack of self-confidence gets in the middle. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฏ. ๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€ โ€“ take your lessons of loss and doubt and turn them inside out. The biggest lessons like that often strengthen us to confront almost anything that reflects those same feelings.โ€ E.g. if youโ€™ve lost someone significant, then you know what loss truly feels like. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฐ. ๐—œ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ โ€“build your skillset, be the best in it, be so good you canโ€™t be ignored or replaced, or so good everyone comes to you for your service. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฑ. ๐—”๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜๐—ต๐˜€/๐˜€๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐˜€ ; assess our skills, experiences, and your contributions. Build your foundation on your results. Youโ€™ll build real self confidence. 

 ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฒ. ๐—ž๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€: starting from yourself . Keep promises you make to yourself by following through on what you say youโ€™re going to do. You earn trust and respect with yourself when you do. Commit to doing something that challenges you. Then do that thing. Repeat. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿณ. ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ โ€“ listening and repeating positive affirmations and mantra; build your confidence from within. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿด. ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜๐˜‚๐—ณ๐—ณ ; donโ€™t spend your day listening to sad music because someone offended you the day before. Or spend your day reading comments on a troll on social media. Feed your brain, empowering thoughts. 

๐Ÿญ๐Ÿต. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—”๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ: Authenticity builds your self-confidence. Do what you say and say what you mean. 

๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฌ. ๐—ฅ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐˜€ : most times, feeling low could be a sign you need to raise your standards. A lack of money could be a sign you need to ask for a raise, or increase your price or even start a side hustle. Make commitments, do them; set your bar higher from what you tolerate from yourself and others. Lastly, remember you can do whatever you set your mind to achieve. Donโ€™t allow anyone or self-doubt kill those dreams

These are few ways to boost your confidence, improve self esteem & increase selfworth. 

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Precious Adams

Thanks a lot

Samson Chimobi

Brilliant, thank you.

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