No matter how many times a kid falls, he never remains on the ground and wonders if he’ll ever walk. He keeps trying & trying until he finally learns to walk.
Most of us have been trained to avoid failures. We’ll do everything we can to avoid the pain & embarrassment that comes with failure.
But each failure carries within them some positive benefits that are hardly learned from success.
"My goal is not to fail fast. My goal is to succeed over the long run. They are not the same thing."
- Mark Andreessen
I have learned from "Failure" to be motivated and persistent and vigil. Failure teaches you to respect who we are still becoming by stumbling, falling, and getting up repeatedly.
Perspective, patience and lost of focused attention helps.
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What life lessons can you learn from Failure?
1. Failure opens your mind to learning
Every time you fail – you can learn something:
“One more thing that doesn’t work.” “A finer way to make change.” “Clues on how to do better”
Why is learning from failure important? Growth and development comes from recognizing our failures and knowing what we can do to improve and change.
Failure should be seen as action that just didn’t work out well. You can try again and even better next time. And again and again until you achieve your goal.
"Failure is most useful when you give your best effort. If you fail with a lackluster effort, you haven't learned much. Perhaps you could have succeeded with a proper focus. But if your best effort fails, you have learned something valuable: this way doesn't work." - James Clear.
2. Failure teaches patience:
It reminds you to focus on the goal not the setbacks. No matter how long it takes, you can still achieve a dream if you just don’t give up. Each failure brings you closer towards your goals.
Failure is just a feedback. Think of a Final year student that gets expelled when caught cheating. He’ll most likely say to himself, “if only I allowed myself fail that course, than trying to cheat.”
3. Failure teaches you to be nimble and bounce back faster
What can we learn from failure try again? Think of David Goggins, in “Can’t Hurt me;” after going through a lot he was able to learn how to callous his mind and see failure as an opportunity to try again. Yes you can learn how to be patient with your goals from failure but it’s more rewarding to learn how to bounce back faster.
3. Failure makes you Humble
How does failure make you humble? First, you don’t need to wait until you fail in life to be humble. "Success can be a very good teacher, however, we do usually learn more from failure because the outcome is unexpected." What can you learn from your biggest mistake? You certainly would need to take responsibility and admit your errors to learn anything from failure.
How does failure affect a person? It reinforces the fact that we can have different levels of education, class and societal status but never superior to another. We all can mistakes. We all can be corrected by others.
4. Failure helps you get out of your Comfort zone
What does it mean to get out of your comfort zone? If you’re afraid of failing – you may never grow or know the limit of your mind.
Think of climbing Everest, the first flight, exploring Space, breaking a Guinness Record. This is what happens when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Yes they practiced with lots of effort; but they were willing to fail
5. Failure takes out fear
So many people live their lives in fear of what could go wrong. There’s certainly a level of wisdom in being cautious and knowing your limits; but where majority of your decisions are based on fear, there got to be a problem. Fear of failure is a powerful fear that helps nobody.
What causes the fear of failure? It’s a conditioning we have as security but it’s an irrational fear. So how will you conquer the fear of failure? You’ve got to expose yourself sometimes to what you fear the most; and you see the fear vanish afterwards. You grow a backbone and become a stronger human which leads to victory.
6. Failure is an Experience
Can failure be a learning Experience? Experience they say is the best teacher. Yes, we can learn from other’s experiences term. But your failures part of your personal experiences which you can learn from and tell others about.
I love a tweet from a Coach Steve Springer: “Our job as a coach is to help the player learn quicker through our experiences of the failures and successes in our career-to shorten his/her learning span and become a better player earlier than if they where to experience there failures and successes on there own to learn.”
Why do we experience failure? Your failures are part of your personal experiences which you can learn from and tell others about.
You can’t buy experience. You can’t fake it. It’s your story which you can share to the world and use to connect to others as people love stories they can relate to
7. Failure builds Character and allows you see the Big picture
How does failure strengthen a person? You appreciate light more when in darkness. Every time you experience the others side of what you want you have a better perspective of life with what you learn from it.
Can failure make a person stronger? I love people that view life with a perspective like this:
“Failure has never hurt me. It’s what i do with the failures that will make or break me.” “There’s no such thing as failure, only learning experience. Embrace them.”
We can learn to accept imperfection as a gift. We also gain the knowledge to be better prepared in the future for what life throws away. What do you call someone who goes out of their comfort zone? That’s the perspective of a winner.
Growth doesn't mean perfection. Strive to be honest, admit to failures, learn to ask for and to give forgiveness, love, and allow yourself to be loved. ― Farshad Asl.
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