Why do the most successful people still work hard?
Why do the wealthiest people practically live below their income?
Why does the average CEO read at least two books a month why an average employee would hardly read even a single book one for the entire year?
If one thing is common, entitlement is indirectly proportional to how you win in life.
The more successful people get, they more they keep to their vision and work ethic.
My definition of “Entitlement” is feeling the world owes you something, expecting a lot without necessarily earning it.
It's entirely different from the "entitlement" synonymous with privilege. E.g. you are entitled to your basic human right and to your own autonomy.
The feeling of "Entitlement" here is form of low personal responsibility that can breed:
⦁ Selfishness, Dishonesty, a life filled with Excuses, Laziness and Indiscipline.
i) Selfishness; the more entitled you feel, the more you’re always thinking of yourself.
Me! Me!! Me!!! How can I get this? How can I get that? Hardly can you hear a person feeling entitled think of what they can give.
You’ll always feel the world owes you something. And every time, life doesn’t meet your high expectation, it’s now the “world hates me. No one cares about me.”
Until you get the point where you realize no one owes you nothing and the best way to you can influence the world is through your contribution, you may never become fully responsible.
ii) Entitlement can breed Dishonesty: Feeling entitled & expecting everything to be fair can cause one to go their way to do anything just to feed their personal desires – and in the end cover it up if need be. A life full of cover-ups would lead to more lies and dishonesty
iii) Excuses: Excuses are justifications people make for not doing what they’re expected to do. More excuses, lead to more inaction.
And people feeling entitled are better at giving excuses than taking action.
The biggest mistake you’ll make is to give the same excuses, over and over again that you’re known for your excuses.
No one would believe any more word from you.
iv) Laziness and complete risk aversion:
When you feel entitled towards your goals; you’ll gear towards comfort than taking any form of risk.
It's easier to:
⦁ Binge on Netflix daily than read a book even for a month.
⦁ Watch funny videos than go through a course.
⦁ Focus on magic pills than improving their health.
Fact is you’re successful when you keep learning & applying not by complaining & dishing out more excuses.
v) Entitlement can wreck your health.
You probably didn’t see this coming. Maybe you least expected it, but the best way to improve your health is to take more personal responsibility.
It applies especially to your dietary choices, physical activity & sleep routines. These are the things people can give you advise, provide professional help but no one can do for you yet contribute a large chunk to your physical and mental health.
When you feel entitled to having good health; you’ll be quick to dismiss the role personal responsibility plays to how you feel.
You don’t want to get to a stage where you get so out of touch with your body & the food you eat daily is messing up your world; yet you have no clue.
Picture this kind of statements:
“Oh it runs in my family”
There’s nothing I can really do about it.”
Quit thinking this way. Yes you may have zero control over your genetics. But your lifestyle choices especially your diet, physical & mental fitness lies 100% within your control.
So what’s on the other side of Entitlement: It’s a life full of:
The best way to receive is to give.
Generosity is great but Entitlement is bad. It’s a form of low sense of personal responsibility. You can’t build high-quality, long term relationships on entitlements.
Look for ways to add value to other people’s lives and contribute meaningfully even when you won’t be fully rewarded.
b) Action & results;
People would believe & listen to your excuses to a point.
Then they realize you’re better at giving excuses than giving results.
That’s when their trust for you diminishes.
If you want to change your life for good; flip that – minimize your excuses and focus on the steps that you can take that would yield results.
Discipline is the first step to taking ownership in life. Discipline is the tool you use to solve problems in life.
And according to Scott Perck in The Road Less Travelled, there are four tools of discipline: delaying of gratification, acceptance of responsibility, dedication to truth, and balancing.
None of the tools mentioned above can take place when you feel entitled to life but are best used when you take full responsibility.
d) Practice gratitude & Complain less
Gratitude is how you heal old wounds.
Gratitude opens doors to more relationships.
Gratitude is how you stop complaining.
Gratitude is a door way to more opportunities.
Stop sleeping on gratitude ... practice gratitude daily.
Complaining doesn’t solve problems. It doesn’t build strategy or even encourage others. People can learn to avoid you if you’re always complaining.
If you spend your time focusing on the things that are wrong, and that’s what you express and project to people you know, you don’t become a source of growth for people, you become a source of destruction for people.
That draws more destruction. More significantly, complaining leads to less self-awareness.
e) Love and be kind.
Love people, use things. Love always wins. Love what you do. If you have a business; instead of falling in love only with your product or service, fall in love with your clients and you can provide the best service for them. You’ll hardly resent your customers with love.
I love the phrase be kind to your future self. Do things that your future self would be proud of.
Be kind to others by saying what you mean.
I once saw a quote on the difference between nice and being kind.
“Nice is weak, superficial an enabling. Nice goes along to get along.
Kind is having the strength to say the hard things to someone out of love for them. It is confrontational. It takes courage. Be kind.”
f) Invest in your health
The idea that everything about your health is genetic and you have zero control is flawed.
Worse is the notion that we’ll all gon die someday, so enjoy life to the fullest. Enjoying life does not in any way mean doing things that you know are wrecking your health.
If you want to take care of your mental health which is directly related to your physical health; start by daily physical activity including lifting weights, cooking your own meals or eating local foods, moderate sunlight exposure daily, engaging in social activities with loved ones.
Create an environment that supports your fitness goals - don’t keep junk food in your house.
g) Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
You can get better and learn any skill you wish with few hours of focused work daily.
You can become the best in any interest with a little more hardwork and focus without depending on luck, favours or handouts.
You can quit toxic habits such as smoking, porn, booze or a job you hate or porn; with just a little dedication and learning to say no.
You can learn to take calculated risk with better research, practice and focus.
You can get better companions if you choose to associate with people that take you towards your goals.
You can do anything if you choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to do.
You can choose courage over comfort if only you make a decision to.
h) Be yourself.
Start by accepting and loving yourself.
Release the need to prove yourself to anyone as you are your own self and love yourself that way.